I had to chuckle
at both the week and the readings assigned for this week. Bibi and I had a
bit of a conversation that involved her joining in the criticism of the the
lectionary editors. The reading from Matthew assigned for Father’s Day,
in her mind, was not particularly fatherly. Jesus is sounding harsh with
all the divisions He brings. I had to explain to her that this week’s
reading builds on last week’s reading, so it is not as harsh as it
sounds. And she thought it weird that we do not memorialize Father’s Day
or Mother’s Day in liturgical churches. That got her going on the need
for the churches to lead society in the teaching about the importance of
family. Y’all are chuckling because you know she was preaching to the
choir.
I was chuckling because I had promised and prepared y’all for a summer
and fall of the prophets’ calls to walk humbly and do justice. Our first
OT reading last week, though, was more a history teaching than prophetic
teaching. This week’s is even worse! It’s a lament! In fact,
it is one of Jeremiah’s great laments. Which brings me to the week.
Things around here have been tough the last week. True, they have
been tough for three months, but this week has represented a nadir of
sorts. I think six Adventers were hospitalized this week. That has
brought back into focus the spiritual cost of illnesses during this
pandemic. Most of the hospitals are not allowing us in unless we are
immediate family. People are suffering in isolation in addition to
whatever illnesses or injuries are besetting them. Bobbie has had, what,
three surgeries in the last week or ten days? Michael may have had to
have the mesh removed from his last surgery and replaced which was done because
the first mesh from his transplant was torn. If it sounds painful, it’s
because it is. Jane’s was a bit happier. She’s getting a new
knee. In no time, she and Ronnie will be dancing again, but it still
hurts in the interim. Frances was admitted for stroke-like
symptoms. You get the picture.
In the background to that, my extended family was
having its own health issues. Karen’s mother continues to suffer from the
effects of her concussion and the lack of a primary care physician. My
mom complained about an issue with her port for dialysis and then radio
silent. It turns out it’s pretty normal. Apparently, most patients
have it done every six months or so. Mom had gone three years, so she was
due. My grandfather fell and broke his hip. Yes, he is suffering
from Alzheimer’s or dementia and is in his nineties. My uncle was faced
with the prospect of allowing surgery that my grandfather might not understand
or be able to rehab or letting him remain bedridden in severe pain for the rest
of his life. Y’all get the picture.
Pastoral conversations have continued to be deep and painful. In
case you have forgotten, much of the world is still protesting, some of the
world is rioting. There’s an election on the horizon. Some folks are
worried that employment is NOT on the horizon. A new wrinkle has been the
newest emotions facing members of our parish and diocese who are People of
Color. The rush of white folks to learn all the issues has been
exhausting, frustrating, and even worrisome to them. Apparently, a memo
went out a couple weeks ago that white people should ask their black friend
about societal injustices. Y’all are laughing nervously a bit, but think
of the position we put them in now. Hey, Fred, tell me about the
injustices you face on a daily basis. If Fred is the only PoC that folks
know, he’s being asked that a lot. How much should he share? How
much should he get his hopes up that THIS time it is different? How does
he respond to the comments of the white person asking. I did not know
can be a frustrating response. Did we not know, or did we not want to
know? Will we be allies going forward, or will we think our jobs are done
since we spent a few minutes in uncomfortable listening? Will we
re-evaluate our opinions of Fred positively or negatively? Every time we
ask incredulously how Fred put up with x, y, or z, we are reinforcing we really
did not know Fred.
I have touched on a lot. There is some squirming here, so I know
the Holy Spirit is giving wedgies. I imagine, for all my summary, I’ve
left out your issues, the background noise of your life this week.
Even my “easy” conversations had challenges this week. I was
approached by the oldest AA group in Brentwood about meeting on our campus once
or twice a week. Usually, they meet at restaurants. Most of those
have cut capacity around here; and let’s face it, do we want to go to those
restaurants that have not? In case you do not speak AA, it is Alcoholics
Anonymous. They are encouraged to refrain from drinking alcohol by one
another much like you are encouraged to refrain from sinning at church.
You see where this is going? How happy are restaurants around here
willing to tolerate men refraining from drinking from tying up their limited
space for an hour or ninety minutes?
They had been encouraged to approach me because we are already open to a
Twelve Step Group. They had heard I had some experience with AA and that
I claim it is rooted in the Episcopal Church. That led to a discussion
about a number of issues, but most importantly the discussion of the
monkey. How do I reconcile a loving God with His unwillingness to take
away the addiction? Did I understand the pain and hurt that came with
that never-ending suffering?
For my part, I was well-prepared for that conversation, though it was no
less painful and dark. One of my great . . . pastoral challenges was a
suicide some years ago. I’ll spare you the details I shared with these
leaders, but I had a gentleman approach me about baptism. He was
convinced Jesus would take away all the pain, all the suffering, all the
addiction. I reminded him that our Lord is a redemptive sufferer, that He
uses redemptive suffering to reach others. I could baptize Him and offer
him assurance that His life would be redeemed, that one glorious day in the
future, all the hurt and pain and suffering that came from his addiction would
not even be worth a tear. But my experience had been that addiction was a
cross that many Christians bore.
After several weeks, the young man in question decided to pursue
baptism. I thought I had done a good job inoculating him against all the
“If God really loves you, He will take the monkey from you” nonsense. In
the end, I was wrong. A couple years later, he relapsed. His
relapse, in a moment of darkness, led to his taking of his own life. And
I found myself in the middle of a funeral for all those who loved him, who had
rooted for him, and who mourned his suicide, with the easy task of preaching
God’s love and power. After that cheerful discussion, the AA guys decided
I might be ok, I might have a sense of what they experience on a daily basis,
that and my conversations with Bubbles, and my struggles with my own sins.
In one of my other group discussions this week, I found myself engaged
with nearly every Christian platitude full of heresy. For the gentleman
in question, it began with “God needed another angel” with his explanation of an
untimely death. Y’all know me now. Not much pisses me off more than
when Christians make God sound like a monster all in the interest of dealing
with their own struggles.
Man, I pounced. I pounced like he’d been saying it for
weeks. I’m sure he meant well. Most do. But what are we
saying that when we say that phrase. For his part, he’d kind of forgotten
that part that our eternal existence will be greater than that of the
angels. He’d also kind of forgotten that the Lord, the Creator of heaven
and earth, can CREATE an angel, if He needs one. He does not need to kill
us to get another. He sort of specializes in creating from nothing, so He
does not need our bodies or our space or our souls or whatever.
That heretical platitude caused others to share their own. I had
an entire hour or so of remedial teaching and passionate argument because
“well, my pastor of 60 years taught me that, if I have faith enough, God will
give me money or health or whatever.” Works righteousness is like a vampire.
It is too hard to kill.
This sermon would have been a bit too focused on me and way too dark, a
couple at 8am said it was still too dark, but I was reminded of the power of
laments by a seeming fun-loving Episcopalian last night.
One of the blessings of Coronatide has been the opportunity to rewatch
movies. In between all the Marvel movies and MiB movies and Indiana Jones
movies, there have been some great movies I have forgotten. One is a
fictional story about a real doctor. The movie is called Patch Adams, and
the doctor is played by none other than Robin Williams. Good, I see many
of you have seen it. For those of you who have not, Patch Adams was a
medical student who believed that, in treating only the disease or the injury,
we fail to help human beings be truly human. He was a big proponent of
creating a medical community that listened, that empowered, that laughed, and
even, if the time came, did not view death as the enemy. For his views, a
medical dean tried to keep him from graduating despite his good grades.
For all his work, he saw thousands of patients after his graduation, and for
all the fame generated by this movie, he failed terribly. Look at our
medical system now. Doctors must see a patient every six minutes.
They don’t really get to know us. How can they in six minute
bursts? And we treat symptoms far more than underlying causes. I
see the nods.
Robin Williams plays the lead character, Patch. Robin was a famous
Episcopalian. He is often credited with that “Top Ten Reasons to be an
Episcopalian List” that was a riff on David Letterman back in the day. Like
the Roman Catholic Church: all the pomp and circumstance but none of the
guilt. You never have to handle snakes. Where three or four are
gathered, there’s always a fifth! Good, may on you know that list.
I was watching Robin’s scene last night where he stands on the cliff
arguing with God, contemplating suicide. Naturally, I wondered whether he
ad-libbed the scene and gave us insight into his own personal demons. But
that fight with God was real. He was not acting. To place it in the
movie, his girlfriend was killed by a patient. He blames himself for her
death. He stands at the cliff pondering the jump.
God, You tell us You made everything. Given the evil and
suffering and meanness of human beings, don’t you think you should have spent
an extra session or two of eternity in a brainstorming session?
God, later You tell us that You rested on the seventh day. Why the
hell didn’t you spend a bit of time considering our need for compassion?
It is a great scene. Robin hurls invectives and laments at God,
and the whole time he is standing on the edge of a cliff. In the end, he
tells God He’s not worth the jump. He turns to head back to his medical
bag and sees the butterfly. A butterfly, complete with all the imagery
associated with it, has landed on his medical bag. As he approaches the
bag, the butterfly flies to Patch, and Patch continues his fight to change the
system of medicine, his dean, and even the need to wear pants under a
graduation robe.
I can tell by the rumor that many of you have seen the movie. It
makes sense at Advent. A doctor movie starring a famous
Episcopalian. And I totally forgot about it until last night. But
that movie provides a lighter entry into the dark emotions that provoke
laments. And we have lots of reasons to lament. A pandemic has
swept across the world. Death has followed in ints wake.
Bankruptcies from medical bills are yet to be determined. Economic ruin
has followed in its wake. Heck, I think we have served about 5000
individuals through our food pantry since this all began, and we are just
across the border from the modern Garden of Eden that is known as Brentwood.
How bad has it been in the so-called “undesirable” neighborhoods?
In case you missed it, there’s been a number of protests and riots
around the country as the result of the actions of an abusive police officer,
as if we cannot be or do not know abusive folks outside a uniform. One of
their angers or triggers is how everyone hates them right now, how people are
flicking them off or cursing them because of an asshole in Minneapolis, but
they know those same jerks will expect them to answer 911, to lay down their life
for them in the event of an armed burglar or other emergency. Thankfully,
most of those officers with whom I work are Christians. I get to point
out their share of Christ’s ministry. He knows what it is like to be
rejected. He knows what it is like to be abandoned and betrayed by those
whom He came to save. So, I invite them to lament and rant and rail AND
to remember Whom they truly serve.
Sure enough, I saw headlines this morning that people in cities are
calling on police to do their jobs. Too many senseless killing. Too
many thefts. It’s almost as if people don’t understand that, absent the
police, bad people will do bad things.
The good side of the protests, though, has been the address of systemic
racism in our midst. People are talking about education, prison, criminal
justice, and others parts of our life that we white folks take for granted but
that PoC have no such luxury.
Speaking of PoC, our friends who are PoC are exhausted and fearful and
all kinds of unsatisfied emotions. We are wearing them out asking them to
share their stories. Do we really want to know? How will we respond
to their stories? What will we think about them in light of those
stories? And will we forget about this in a week or a month like we have
every time in the past? Do we really care about them? Do we really
love them and want a better life for them? Or are they just the woke
cause of the day?
Think we have cause for lament? Do you think that maybe God knew
what He was doing when He caused laments to be written, edited, and preserved
for our understanding?
In one of my non-Advent groups this week, I brought up the idea of a
lament. I was surprised at how steeped the “Christian” culture was
against lament. Brian, sufferings are God’s way of letting us prove
ourselves worthy of His grace? Brian, God is disappointed in us if we
complain. This is all part of His plan. Brian, it is a sin to
complain about suffering. NO! Absolutely not! If there is
a sin in that conversation, it is the idea that God does not want us coming to
Him with our hurts, our fears, our booboos, our injustices, our “it’s not
fair!’s”. I get that folks are taught that in many churches, but look at
our lesson from Jeremiah today.
To place this in context, Jeremiah was a prophet during an interesting
geo-political time in the world. I saw that as an observer 2600-2700
years later. Assyria was on the fall. Babylon was ascending.
Egypt still thought it mattered. In some ways, the kings in Jerusalem tried
to play sides off against one another rather than obey God. It was like
they thought they knew better than God. One of Jeremiah’s messages was
that the people and leadership needed to return to God. Their willingness
to repent and return would be similar to the willingness of our leaders and
most of our neighbors.
Jeremiah’s pain, though, is not limited to geo-political
considerations. In fact, he will later go about with a yoke as a visible
sign that Israel will be enslaved by Babylon and carried off into Exile, but
that is another reading and another sermon. No, aside from the personal
sense of failure that everyone is ignoring his warning from God, Jeremiah has
just been humiliated, and each of you should give thanks to God that such humiliations
are no longer allowed!
If you turn back to the beginning of the chapter, you learn that
Jeremiah has been punished in the stocks by Pashhur, the assistant chief priest
of the Temple. His crime? Jeremiah has prophesied that for its
disobedience, Judah will be carried off into slavery. They will be
utterly defeated, abandoned by Yahweh. How disobedient is Judah?
The prophet is ignored and mocked by the king and publicly beaten and scourged
by the priest!
We do not live in a shame culture like Jeremiah did, but we certainly
understand some of his mindset. How many of us publicly tell people we
are Christians now? Fifty years ago, you may have gotten some advantage
in the Bible Belt, but then everyone claimed to be Christian, too, and received
those same advantages. But now? Now, many of us whisper it.
We may answer a question, if it is put to us by someone we know and love and
trust, but who really wants to be the “Jesus freak” at work, at the club, or in
our friends’ circle? My guess is that some of you gathered here and
online today have strong opinions about those headwinds challenging our
country, but how many are willing to tell people the source of those
solutions? See, you know Jeremiah’s mindset and emotional state far
better than you ever thought!
Pashhur has just released Jeremiah in an act of kindness. No doubt
he expected Jeremiah to be grateful and to have learned his lesson after the
stocks and 39 lashes. God, of course, cares not at all for such things as
human beings. God instructs Jeremiah to prophesy that He has changed
Pashhur’s name. What meant peaceful or ease or contentment will now mean
surrounded by terror, in God’s eyes. Pashhur, for his insult of the prophet
and of God, will be carried off into slavery into Babylon. There he will
die.
How would you like to be Jeremiah? How do you think that message
went over? Predictably, Jerusalem ignores the prophet. Jeremiah,
for his part, is fed up with it. I do all that You ask, Lord, and what
do I have to show for it? Where’s my glory? Where’s my
respect? Where’s my peace? You have seduced me. You have
tricked me. I try to stay silent but Your words cannot be contained!
Ever found yourself arguing with God about His faithfulness? Ever
found yourself wondering if He cares? Ever found yourself on the verge of
thinking all of this is some kind of wishful, but sadistic, thinking? You
are not alone! My guess is that far more of God’s people have felt that
way at times than have not. This idea that things are always hunk dory
for us is a flat out lie, likely started by the Deceiver as a way to help us
stumble. Ever raged at God because he failed to save or cure a loved
one? Ever held your fist to that imaginary bearded figure in the sky,
shook it, and demanded He show Himself to you and tell you why you are crazy to
believe all this? Ever worried that somehow you were the special one
whose hairs are not number and who is not worth spit, let alone a pigeon?
Ever found yourself obedient to God and forced to suffer?
I am here today, my brothers and sisters, to remind you that such cries
and complaints and anger are not new to God’s people. I am here today, my
friends, to remind you that such frustrations and doubts are not sins.
They are part and parcel of what it means to be cross bearers in a world that
rejects the Cross. They are the normal experiences for those who know
that the stakes and platitudes of this world are vain and empty, that only the
promises of God are true, and lasting, and good. I am here to remind each
of us today, myself included, that we share in that prophetic ministry and
suffering precisely because we are His sons and daughters! We walk our
Calvaries because He showed us the way, and we trust that, like Paul says
today, because we share in His death we will share in His Resurrection and
redemption.
Our path, my friends, is not for the faint of heart or the weak.
It requires strength and determination and perseverance and abundant
grace. But is the path that God uses most often to reach the world around
us. Who better to minister to those suffering from addiction than those
who have been freed from their addiction to sin? Who better to minister
to those enslaved by the “ism’s” of the world, than those whose chains to sin
have been shattered on the Cross of Christ Jesus? Who better to teach a
world full of fear and hate and distrust than those who know the true cost of love,
who are willing to share it, and who know that even these sufferings can be
redeemed?
A couple folks at early church complained I went a bit dark
today. I spoke of suicide and addiction and doubt and fury and pain and
suffering and those things which the world thinks us incapable of understanding
or aware. I get it. But I also hope you heard the promise and hope
that God has lavished on all His people. One day, all this nonsense will
pass. One glorious day, all this hurt and pain and rage will be like that
strawberry or splinter of your youth—not even tear provoking! How
glorious must that calling be for those hurts and pains and angers and
frustration to be thought of in such a light?!
For now, though, we are like Jeremiah freed from the stocks of
sin! It is our responsibility—neigh, it is our privilege—to remind those
around us that it precisely for all these consequences of sin that He came down
from heaven, became sin, and died to sin, that each one of us, indeed all
humanity, might have the chance to bask in His love and affection for all
eternity! That’s a message for pondering not just on Father’s Day, but
every day!
In
His Peace,
Brian†