Monday, February 14, 2022

She was there because He is there . . . On the witness of our sister in Christ, Nancy Hitt Parrish

      On behalf of the family, I would like to thank all of you who attended the service in which we remind ourselves intentionally of the promises God has made to each of us who call upon the work and person of Jesus Christ.  I would also like to thank those folks who came to the visitation but skedaddled before the worship service began.  From a preacher’s perspective, those visitations can be invaluable.  We get to hear lots of stories about those who died.  Often the stories range from great humor to admiration, though I have found it also common to hear some stories that those deceased might not find flattering, were they able to speak up.

     I must confess that, although I am the rector of Adventer, I never had the pleasure of meeting Nancy.  She left about eighteen months before I arrived, heading south to Florida to avoid this wonderful winter weather we have in Nashville and to be closer to her daughter, Teresa.  When Scott called me about the funeral, I am guessing it seemed awkward, or at least, he expressed that it was.  For my part, I was really only worried about the answer to my question about the “family friend” being able to celebrate and preach Nancy’s funeral.  Scott did not know it, but we clergy get lots of inquiries about “internet” ordained friends doing services in our church.  Since many of you are Episcopalians, you likely understand it is not allowed in our church.  But, those conversations are usually with people who are inactive Christians, at best, and those who are looking for an appropriate setting for weddings and funerals.

     Imagine my surprise though, when Scott said it was Fr. Polk.  Episcopalians and Anglicans do not believe in Purgatory, and to be fair our Roman brothers and sisters no longer accept that doctrine either, but any woman who can remain a great family friend of Polk for decades has done an incredible work of supererogation.  Those of you wondering if you missed a great joke can ask those laughing after the service.  Polk served the diocese for many years and did great work in Murfreesboro, but we still like to tease our brother and sister clergy from time to time, especially when they are retired and rubbing it in on us active clergy!

     The reason Scott wanted Polk to bury Nancy, though, stemmed from that perceived awkwardness.  Polk knew her and her family very well.  It would make sense he would be a great pastor in this.  Unfortunately, though, we clergy are doing more and more funerals for people whom we never knew, as more and more people quit remembering the reason they were called to attend churches in the beginning.  Having heard a number of your stories, I wish I would have known her.  I am fairly certain we would have gotten along well.  In fact, I bet we would have gotten along better than that, as she seems to have been a woman who took her faith and her life seriously.  At heart, I am an evangelical.  I believe that we are taught and equipped to go forth into the world loving others into or inviting others into God’s kingdom.  I shared with Scott and Teresa at the burial of Nancy this morning that I thought I would be preaching on Psalm 121 this afternoon.  There was a bit of teasing about “you think?” I shared how I thought the sermon was of God, and your stories have only confirmed it for me.

     Now, before I get too far down this, I need to do two things.  First, the illustrations are from Nancy’s life.  Even though we mourn with the family over their loss, over the fact that the woman they knew and loved is no longer with them, their mourning is not without hope.  Nancy has been teaching her family, her friends, her patients, and probably more than a couple doctors with god-complexes about her faith for the vast majority of her life.  She has been preparing her children all their adult life for this horizon.  So, if I have done a decent job, I am simply putting to words the preaching and teaching she has done as she lived her life!

     The second thing is that I will be preaching the Gospel of Jesus Christ from Psalm 121.  Seeing the confused looks, I will remind us all this afternoon that everything in Scripture is about Jesus.  Jesus Himself said it, and the Father’s Resurrection of Him that Easter Morning reminds us that He told the truth.  Everything in Scripture is about Jesus.  Everything.  The Gospels, the histories, the prophets, and even the Psalms are about Him.

     Now, unknown to Teresa and Scott, I had a built-in affinity for Psalm 121.  They did not know it, but my second daughter graduated from Hollins a couple years ago.  I am a stitcher, and my daughter had requested that I stitch her the Hollins seal for a framed office hanging.  None of you likely have ever heard of Hollins.  It is a small, all-female, liberal arts college not too far from Roanoke, VA.  Think Harpeth Hall, but on steroids.  The college was founded and nestled along the foothills of the Appalachians range, and the Blue Ridge Mountains more specifically.  And their motto, chosen in the 19th century is levavi oculus—Latin for “I lift my eyes.”  If you look in the back of our Psalter in the BCP, that is the title of the psalm!  Every time I have gone to drop off or pick up my daughter, four times a semester for eight semesters, I was confronted with that psalm in that setting.  Like Nancy, who may have only looked out the back windows of her house on Forest Acres, the very environment reminds me and you of the observations of faithful Hebrews.

     The psalm, as some of you may know, was part of the Psalms of Ascent.  In fact, when you go home, if you check your Bibles, and especially your annotated Bibles, you will learn or be reminded that faithful Israelites would say these Psalms of Ascent as they pilgrimaged from the bottom of the hill up the Holy Mountain to the Temple.  The psalms served an obvious function.  Imagine climbing the hill up Lakemont.  Most of us could do it, but few of us would enjoy it.  Add stifling heat or bitter cold or rain, and such climbs are just yucky.  But even in great weather, like we are experiencing today, the climb would not be a “walk in the park,” by any stretch of our imaginations.  The Psalms of Ascent helped distract climbers much in the same way we use music to distract ourselves during exercise or driving our cars or doing our work.  Just as our favorite tunes help us accomplish what we are doing, the psalms helped the faithful pilgrims climb the hill.

     Typical of God, of course, the psalms also served more than one purpose.  Not only did the psalms help faithful Israel climb the mountain physically and mentally, but they also reminded Israel of God’s faithfulness.  Through their singing, Israel pilgrims would remind themselves of God’s faithfulness to His Covenant people.

     Psalm 121 does this in both an overt way and in a more subtle way, at least to our modern musical and theological sensibilities.  The overt way, as only poets among us might see, depending upon the English translation, was the author’s use of anadiplosis.  Sounds like a medical word, doesn’t it?  Maybe a good rash on our bodies?  Maybe an immune response issue?  It certainly sounds like a word Nancy might have used when talking to other healthcare workers about patient care.  At its core, though, anadiplosis is a fancy way of describing stair-step poetry.  Anadiplosis is the name of the practice of ending a line of poetry and beginning the next line with the same old, or close synonym, in an effort to build to something.  Think of it as the lyrical working toward a crescendo.  Poets use the lines effectively to build to an important message or teaching.  As readers and hearers read or listen to the poem, they are elevated to the truth or teaching or emotion that the poet wants to explore.  I see some impressed looks of comprehension.  Yes, the psalmist wrote a psalm whose teaching elevated faithful pilgrims even as they physically climbed a hill to go to Temple.  Yes, now you know why we Christians believe all of Scripture to have been inspired by God.

     The conveyed truth of this psalm was the reminder that God would care for them, through all life’s joys and vicissitudes, in the very same way that He cared from Israel through its dangers, beginning with the Exodus, but including any number of other challenges to their existence, until the reigns of David and Solomon. More importantly, perhaps to the psalmist, God would be there in the midst of their trials and sufferings. In this psalm, in particular, the psalmist reminded Israel repeatedly of the Hebrew word shamar.  We translate shamar as “protect” or “watch” or “keep.”  Those of you looking at the psalm now may notice it is used three times in the last two verses.  To put it in the language of anadiplosis, the elevated understanding that the psalmist and God want readers and hearers to understand is that God shamars His people.  The psalm begins with the reminder of Creation and the shade and light of the Exodus and speaks specifically of battles.  But the final teaching of the psalm is that God watches over everything in His peoples’ lives, not just corporately, but individually.  He watches over our coming and going both now and ever more.

     God is so attentive to the needs of His people, God is so paying attention to what befalls us, God is such a loving Father to us, we should know that He is always paying attention to us, even when we think or hope He is otherwise distracted.  Those who knew Nancy and wonder where this wonderful God was when she died might rightly challenge us, or her, where He was in this last great challenge of life.  If God is so loving, so caring, so good, why did He let her die?  More perplexing would be the question of why she believed?  After all, she was a nurse.  She better than most understood the ravages of disease, the nearness of death, and the dysfunctions of families exacerbated by the stresses of dealing with disease and death.  Her love of this psalm convinces me that Nancy understood that God’s faithfulness in her past, and in the past of those who came before her, was that God would shamar her even in the face of death.  How could she be so confident?

     Nancy rightly understood that our Lord was a God of redemption.  So often, we think so much is up to us.  Our healthcare system likes to think and teach that a right procedure or right medicine or a right “lifestyle” change can postpone death.  But in those wars of life and death, Nancy realized the truth that life is truly a fragile gift.  Doctors and nurses can labor with all their expertise; no matter how hard they work and how much they know, however, death is ultimately unconquerable . . . for us.

     In our tradition, we remind ourselves that Jesus was not just a Savior but also the Teacher of how we should live, that His life provides for us a pattern for holy living, to quote the Collect.  Though He lived a sinless life and should have been recognized as the Anointed One of God by the various signs miracles that pointed to the fact He was the One predicted in the writings and teachings of the Prophets, and rabbis, and even the priests.  For His faithfulness, they put Him to death, even as the crowd, those whom He came to save, cheered them on.  Thankfully, in the midst of such defeat, God was not done.  He raised Jesus from the dead and gave Him authority over all.  Now, by virtue of our baptism, we have a share in both His death and Resurrection.  And so we remember that hope in the midst of such seeming finality.  The same God who raised Jesus from the dead has promised each and every one of us who proclaim Him Lord that we, too, will share in that Resurrection.  That promise, and God’s persistent faithfulness, gives us hope.  His promise and faithfulness through generations who came before us allowed us to stand at her grave and make our alleluias, trusting that God would keep His promise to her, that even death could not separate her from His love.

     How do I know Nancy share such hope and determined faith, even if I never met her?  The easy way is the stories that have been told.  Yes, family members and Adventers have shared some wonderful stories about Nancy, but it goes deeper even than that.  No doubt some of you will look around and notice that some who were sharing stories about Nancy, some of those who in their way mourn her loss as do we gathered here, are not with us for this Eucharist.  They, too, though, came to pay their respects.  In an age when people can post “I’m praying for you” at the losses of our loved ones, they showed up in the Parish Hall, told their stories, and asked their questions.  Their willingness to do in person something that the rest of the world does with scornful posts and tweets, tells us all something about her witness.

     As I was working on the Order of Worship last week, Scott and Teresa sent me a number of her favorite Scriptures and songs, as well as that lovely Nightingale liturgy.  In truth, I had not thought much about it since seminary.  For those of you unaware of her faith, Florence Nightingale was an Anglican.  Had she been living and worshipping in the United States, she would have come to an Episcopal Church like this one.  In our church, she is what we call a lesser saint or a holy woman.  She is not quite at the level where all Christians around the world celebrate her faith and witness as we do a Valentine next week or the life of one of the Apostles.  But we celebrate her in our church on August 12 each year, reminding ourselves of her mystical faith, and her willingness to live her faith in the world around her, bringing not just God’s kingdom to her profession or calling, but even to the wider world.  By all accounts, Florence had a mystical understanding, an unfailing certainty that God was there in the midst of everything she did to care for the patients entrusted to her care.  From learning new techniques or procedures to dealing with their extreme attitudes to everything in between, Florence was certain that God was there for the suffering.  She ministered and cared for her patients as if she truly believed and understood that she was caring for one created in the image of God.  Looking back at her radical behavior, we might see that she perceived herself to be caring for Jesus, or for someone created in His loving image.  Over time, she was recognized as “being there” for her patients, and we see that observation recognized in the litany read by Erin, herself a NICU nurse and, given her understandable difficulty getting through the litany, a nurse cut from the same cloth and faith as both Florence and Nancy.  As all nurses recognize, it is not the time spent in the career, but the difference that their presences, and the difference those presence made in each peculiar circumstance, that we and they remember when one of them dies.

     As beautiful as the tribute is—and we acknowledged some of the circumstances in our reply “she was there”—it pales in comparison to the truth that Nancy clearly understood, and the faith by which she lived her life as a mom, as a friend, as a colleague, and as a caregiver.  She was there, because she knew He was there.  In the midst of a patient’s suffering, He was there.  In the midst of trouble with teenage smart mouths and attitudes, He was there.  In the midst of watching her husband precede her in death, He was there.  In the midst of telling a doctor to do his job right, He was there.  In all her comings and goings in life, in all her life’s joys and sadness and madness, He was there.  And now, even as we, her brothers and sisters at Advent, her family, her friends, and even her colleagues lament her passing, He is here.  Better still, we give thanks that now she is there, with Him, her Saviour and her Redeemer, and that where they are, one day, we who proclaim Him Lord and trust in His promises like Nancy, may one day be!

 

In Christ’s Name,

Brian†

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